Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Documented Controbution
I feel like i contributed to the class. First off by being there, i know a lot of people missed school and i think its good to see those of the people who showed up everyday and really do the work. I know i dont talk much in class, but i have talked a little bit and i have showed my pictures from when i was a little girl to some people in our class. Having conversations with students in my class (natural conversations or when we were paired up) my interaction with other people in class was me contributing.
Touching and Listening
"Why are there so many of us, but people still alone" -Tracy Chapman
There are always certain people in life, who just don’t fit in; don’t have many friends and are alone in this world. But why is that, if there are so many people in the world today? Maybe some people just don’t belong, but it also has to do with ones interaction with other people. In class we have been studying two important types of interaction among people; Conversing and touching.
Very few of us feel heard; I can go through an entire day and feel as though I have made no difference to anyone. I feel for the most part I am listened to, but I don’t think everyone listens to me. I don’t find this strange, because I don’t pay much attention to a lot of people either. I often zone out in class, and don’t hear anything. But that’s class, when I’m having a conversation with someone, I always listen. A few good qualities to have in a conversation is eye contact, it keeps people connected. Some form of physical contact while having a conversation helps connect people as well. Asking questions and wanting to know about the other person and the topic is great too. If you just sit back and nod, and say ok, uh huh oh yea. You’re not a fun person to talk to. I’v noticed people love talking about themselves, so I sometimes just ask questions and let them talk away. Moods are also contagious, even if we don’t realize it. Smiling when having a conversation makes the other person happy. A few bad conversational practices are people who talk about themselves the entire time, and do all the talking. It gets boring to hear someone blab on about themselves, and not see how you are doing. They might as well talk to themselves.
When having a conversation with someone you can usually get a feel for what their goals are in the conversation and how they feel about you. People usually rearrange their words, rather than being straight forward with their thoughts. But some people are straight forward with what they want to say, I feel as if most people are not straight forward when conversing. Body language can say a lot about a person. If someone’s body is curved inward and tilted away from someone, not making eye contact, not smiling, stiff and uncomfortable and no physical contact shows you don’t feel comfortable with the other person you’re talking to and maybe a general dislike. On the other hand if someone is making eye contact, body open towards the person their talking to, smiling they are most likely having a better conversation. People don’t necessarily have goals in every conversation they have. People socialize and interact with others and think nothing of the conversations they have daily.
A few tips I have tried over the past few days to have better conversations is asking more questions, and listening more. Sometime I don’t always listen to people I’m talking too, I often zone out.
Everybody likes to be touched and to touch to touch others. Not always in a sexual way, but in an affectionate way. Human beings all need physical contact; we would not survive without the interaction of others. There are no human beings that have no physical interaction with any other human beings. Babies who are not touched, comforted and loved grow up to be cold adults, whereas babies who are touched, comforted and loved become affection adults. The movie The Bubble boy is about a guy who has a weak immune system and can’t come into contact with any thing or anyone, and he lives in a huge bubble. I would rather die than live in a bubble.
When we are young we feel more comfortable with ourselves and we touch others, even people we don’t know well. But as we get older our physical interaction with others is less, and we only touch people we are comfortable with. You would seem crazy if you gave a stranger a hug, but it would not be as weird if a child gave a stranger a hug. I only touch others if I am comfortable enough with them and if I know the person.
I don’t think the Antioch Policy will ever work in a society, especially in our society. The Antioch Policy is before two people (or more) initialize sexual contact you must verbalize consent. In class we talked about the Antioch Policy, which is before initializing sexual contact you must verbalize consent. Which I don’t think will ever work out in life for anyone because things just happen and it would be awkward to consent about something two people obviously agree on. People are getting raped everyday, rape is usually violent act. If the Antioch Policy worked, no one would ever get raped. Touching in general in anyway is only for the people closest in your life. Our society has made it that way, on subways people sit as far away from each other as possible.
Touching is very important for babies, if you don’t touch a baby and give them affection they will grow up to be cold people. Where babies who are comforted and touched often grow up to be more affectionate and loving.
Its very important to stay connected to the people around us. By listening better, and seeing how you can communicate with people better. Also reading people body language and how to use touch to your advantage. Knowing how to read people and control people through conversations. People who take power in a country are there because a of how they talk their body language. A timid person acts different than a strong confident person. A Strong confident person in usually a leader.
There are always certain people in life, who just don’t fit in; don’t have many friends and are alone in this world. But why is that, if there are so many people in the world today? Maybe some people just don’t belong, but it also has to do with ones interaction with other people. In class we have been studying two important types of interaction among people; Conversing and touching.
Very few of us feel heard; I can go through an entire day and feel as though I have made no difference to anyone. I feel for the most part I am listened to, but I don’t think everyone listens to me. I don’t find this strange, because I don’t pay much attention to a lot of people either. I often zone out in class, and don’t hear anything. But that’s class, when I’m having a conversation with someone, I always listen. A few good qualities to have in a conversation is eye contact, it keeps people connected. Some form of physical contact while having a conversation helps connect people as well. Asking questions and wanting to know about the other person and the topic is great too. If you just sit back and nod, and say ok, uh huh oh yea. You’re not a fun person to talk to. I’v noticed people love talking about themselves, so I sometimes just ask questions and let them talk away. Moods are also contagious, even if we don’t realize it. Smiling when having a conversation makes the other person happy. A few bad conversational practices are people who talk about themselves the entire time, and do all the talking. It gets boring to hear someone blab on about themselves, and not see how you are doing. They might as well talk to themselves.
When having a conversation with someone you can usually get a feel for what their goals are in the conversation and how they feel about you. People usually rearrange their words, rather than being straight forward with their thoughts. But some people are straight forward with what they want to say, I feel as if most people are not straight forward when conversing. Body language can say a lot about a person. If someone’s body is curved inward and tilted away from someone, not making eye contact, not smiling, stiff and uncomfortable and no physical contact shows you don’t feel comfortable with the other person you’re talking to and maybe a general dislike. On the other hand if someone is making eye contact, body open towards the person their talking to, smiling they are most likely having a better conversation. People don’t necessarily have goals in every conversation they have. People socialize and interact with others and think nothing of the conversations they have daily.
A few tips I have tried over the past few days to have better conversations is asking more questions, and listening more. Sometime I don’t always listen to people I’m talking too, I often zone out.
Everybody likes to be touched and to touch to touch others. Not always in a sexual way, but in an affectionate way. Human beings all need physical contact; we would not survive without the interaction of others. There are no human beings that have no physical interaction with any other human beings. Babies who are not touched, comforted and loved grow up to be cold adults, whereas babies who are touched, comforted and loved become affection adults. The movie The Bubble boy is about a guy who has a weak immune system and can’t come into contact with any thing or anyone, and he lives in a huge bubble. I would rather die than live in a bubble.
When we are young we feel more comfortable with ourselves and we touch others, even people we don’t know well. But as we get older our physical interaction with others is less, and we only touch people we are comfortable with. You would seem crazy if you gave a stranger a hug, but it would not be as weird if a child gave a stranger a hug. I only touch others if I am comfortable enough with them and if I know the person.
I don’t think the Antioch Policy will ever work in a society, especially in our society. The Antioch Policy is before two people (or more) initialize sexual contact you must verbalize consent. In class we talked about the Antioch Policy, which is before initializing sexual contact you must verbalize consent. Which I don’t think will ever work out in life for anyone because things just happen and it would be awkward to consent about something two people obviously agree on. People are getting raped everyday, rape is usually violent act. If the Antioch Policy worked, no one would ever get raped. Touching in general in anyway is only for the people closest in your life. Our society has made it that way, on subways people sit as far away from each other as possible.
Touching is very important for babies, if you don’t touch a baby and give them affection they will grow up to be cold people. Where babies who are comforted and touched often grow up to be more affectionate and loving.
Its very important to stay connected to the people around us. By listening better, and seeing how you can communicate with people better. Also reading people body language and how to use touch to your advantage. Knowing how to read people and control people through conversations. People who take power in a country are there because a of how they talk their body language. A timid person acts different than a strong confident person. A Strong confident person in usually a leader.
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